Thursday, September 20, 2012

How to Find the Right One and Make It Last, by Charles A. Johnson

Most people want to find someone with whom they can share their lives.  There are some very clear dos and don'ts when it comes to dating.  In this book you will find clear cut dating strategies, as well as real world examples of strategies in use.

I read this book out of sheer curiosity; I wanted to see what a male's perspective on dating would look like.  Turns out it looks pretty much exactly as I expected.  A lot of the advice given in this book is fairly sound, and common sense.  Don't be late, don't neglect your hygiene, treat your date with respect, use your manners.  These are the kinds of lessons most of us learned in childhood and high school.  However, I found a lot of the information to be a bit dated.  Only a few short pages were devoted to online dating, yet I think the internet, online dating sites, and social media have greatly changed the way dating looks and happens in the 21st century.  Whether people want to admit it or not, new times call for new rules.

I also felt that the book contradicted itself several times, particularly when discussing how women should approach dating.  It states several times that it does not matter how much someone weighs or how someone looks, but it mentions several times that women should try to lose weight and spruce themselves up when looking for a date.  One part, in particular, stated that men rarely complain about a woman having a large behind or chest, so a woman should focus on "creating definition between the two".  I find this to be contradictory, and somewhat demeaning.  

I think that this book does provide some sound advice, but more for those daters who are in their 30s or older.  I think this book would not be useful to younger people looking for dating advice.  And personally, all this book did was make me extra thankful that I never have to worry about dating ever again.

I received a review copy courtesy of Tribute Book Blog Tours, in exchange for my honest review.  Find the rest of the tour here.

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