Showing posts with label Non-fiction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Non-fiction. Show all posts

Monday, October 27, 2014

Memory Card Full, by Liz Weber

Liz was sold on the idea of getting a dog initially.  In the midst of a rocky relationship, getting a dog seemed almost a desperate attempt at saving the situation.  When the relationship ends, it is clear that the dog, Rufus, belongs with Liz, and he will change her life forever.  Through every rough patch, Rufus is there to make things better.  When Rufus passes away, Liz must adjust to life without him, and learns the healing that sometimes comes with letting go.

I am a sucker for a good memoir, and equally a sucker for books about dogs, so for me, a memoir that involves a dog was sure to pack a wallop.  And the fact that the woman in the memoir is and aspiring writer?  Well, I was sold before I ever picked it up.  

Liz Weber does a fabulous job of opening her life, and her heart, to the readers of this book.  I was enchanted from the first chapter.  The book has an easy-natured way about it, making it a very pleasant read, even when discussing not so pleasant things.  She has quite a knack for describing things in rich detail, to the point where you feel you are there, silently observing the scene.  

I was highly impressed with this book; it lived up to every one of my expectations, which is no small feat.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

My Thinning Years; Starving the Gay Within, by Jon Derek Croteau

From an early age, Jon felt different.  He preferred playing with the girls and hated sports.  His father, determined to make a "real man" out of him, belittled Jon's sensitive ways, bullied him into sports, and criticized his physical appearance.  As a result, Jon grew up in total fear of his father, of his own sexuality, and of being fat.  These issues morphed into a full scale eating disorder, fueled by self loathing and internalized homophobia.  For all if his adult life, Jon would struggle.

Oh goodness, this book made me rage, and weep, and rejoice.  Jon does a beautiful job of sharing his story in a way that is honest and genuine.  I did not feel the intention with the writing was to demonize his father, yet I raged over the kind of person his father was.  It breaks my heart to know that any child is emotionally abused in such a manner; this is abuse, and it has real, lasting consequences.  I applaud Jon for the hard work he has done to overcome his abusive past, to seek happiness and healing, and to make difficult but healthy choices in his life.

We constantly hear of young people developing severe emotional issues, engaging in self harm, and attempting suicide, all because of being abused and bullied.  It is important that we continue to spread the message that you can overcome these types of situations.  It will not be easy, and it will probably be painful and unpleasant, but it is possible, and you are worth it.   I am so thankful that Jon has become the strong, eloquent survivor he is, and that he has chosen to share his story.  We often hear of females who have eating disorders, but the reality is, males are also plagued by these issues.  Jon has given voice to an overlooked group, and probably has helped save a few lives in the process.  I cannot recommend this book highly enough.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Sweet Tooth: A Memoir, by Tim Anderson

As a teenager, Tim started to realize that he was different, that he was attracted to other boys.  He knew he needed to keep this a secret, so he started daydreaming; just when he thinks he is beginning to deal with his sexuality, life throws him another curveball, when he discovers he has Type I diabetes.  Tim struggles to learn how to deal with this life altering disease, and along the way he suffers severe reactions when his blood sugar drops dangerously low.  People in his life learn how to spot the signs and take care of him, but between his disease and his sexuality, he spends quite a few years as a big, sloppy mess.  Eventually, however, he learns to manage life, as well as any of us do.

I am a sucker for a great memoir; real, personal stories are the ones I find most interesting. Which is exactly why I loved this book so much.  I felt like this book can really speak to people.  A reader needs to look past the specifics- one does not need to be a Type I diabetic, or gay, or a boy with curly swoopy bangs, to relate to this book.  One needs only to have struggled with something, anything, that made them feel different, defective, outcast.  And who among us has not, at some point, had such a struggle?

I found the book to be incredibly well written, a perfect balance of wit, self deprecation, and seriousness. The chapters are interspersed with vignettes of Tim suffering severe reactions, and I found those to be highly educational.  I never realized, despite the fact that I too have seen Steel Magnolias, the drastic shifts in personality and behavior that can occur when a diabetic person's blood sugar bottoms out.  I wonder how many times we think someone is drunk or high or crazy, when really, they are just a diabetic in need of some juice.

I found this book to be brave, and honest, and raw.  I wish more people had the courage to tell their stories the way Tim has.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours, in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

Sunday, January 12, 2014

My Mother's Funeral, by Adriana Paramo

After spending her childhood and young adulthood living in Colombia with her mother and siblings, Adriana moved to the United States.  While she may have been thousands of miles away from her mother, she still kept her close to her heart; when her mother died, it was a devastating blow.  Adriana recounts snippets of her life with her mother, and the experience of dealing with her loss.

If I had to choose just one word to describe this memoir, I would say it is pristine.  The language and storytelling is wholly unspoiled, like a fine crystal goblet.  Clear, sparkling, beautiful, but if submitted to pressure it will smash and cut you to your core.  The writing in the book is so lyrical and beautiful, I felt it to my very depths.  

I loved the innocence in the author's voice; there is absolutely no guile to her writing.  She recounts stories from her youth that, if told by someone else would scream of naivety, but from her simply convey purity.  There is so much strength in this story, such feeling.  I challenge you to read it without being touched.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

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Thursday, November 28, 2013

35 Slow Cooker Christmas Recipes, by Jean Pardue

Maybe cooking Thanksgiving dinner makes you want to never cook again.  Maybe you got a slow cooker last Christmas and still have not taken it out of the box.  Maybe you will be too busy with last minute Christmas shopping to worry about cooking dinner.  Whatever your situation, this cookbook offer many simple slow cooker recipes to help with your holiday feast.

I am a major fan of the slow cooker.  Last week, I used my slow cooker at least 5 times.  I used to just do a few standards in the slow cooker, but lately I have been branching out and trying more things.  I am always surprised how versatile the slow cooker can be, when used correctly.  This cookbook is a great sampling of slow cooker recipes.  Most of them use very standard ingredients, nothing usual or difficult to find in your local grocery store.  The instructions are clearly written and very easy to follow.

I actually have tried several recipes from this book.  In my first ever attempt at making a ham, using one of the "Bonus" recipes at the end of the book.  Many of the recipes are old standards, given cute and festive names, so not only are they appropriate for a holiday meal, they can be used all year round.  To me, that makes this book a great value.

This book is from my personal library and I wrote an honest review of my own volition.




Monday, November 25, 2013

This is the Story of a Happy Marriage, by Ann Patchett

Sometimes marriages fail.  Sometimes books succeed.  Sometimes friends die too young.  Sometimes dogs live longer than you expected (though never long enough).  In this collection of essays, the author explores all these issues, and more.  She discusses things from all stages in her life, and what it is like to write about them.

Oh Ann Patchett.  Can we please be best friends?  I am so wholeheartedly in love with this book; it is, by far, the best book I have read this year (and I have read about 160 or so).  I love the fact that Ann spends so much time talking about her writing, and how it has and continues to effect her life.  In one particular essay, she talks so honestly about what it means to be a writer, and how the writing process is different for everyone; the key is simply to write.  It was so damn inspiring that I stopped in the middle, and started writing.  I am not kidding.  

I love that Ann is so honest about her relationships in her life, even when other people do not "get" them.  One of the most touching essays is one concerning her grandmother, and how, as an adult, Ann helped take care of her.  She also openly discusses her long term dating relationship with her future husband, Karl, and the ups and downs throughout the years.  

The structure of this book is autobiographical; it is simply conducted through a series of essays.  But it honestly felt more like I was sitting down, talking to an old friend.  I found this book so relatable, so moving, so inspiring.  There is no way my review can ever do this book justice, so instead, you should probably just read the book.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.


Friday, November 22, 2013

Simple Gluten Free & Paleo Bread, by Donatella Giordano

The words gluten free and paleo are often heard when talking about nutrition.  But what do they really mean?  What is a gluten free or paleo diet, why would anyone chose it, and how do you deal with craving your favorite comfort foods?  This book gives a very thorough explanation of the gluten free and paleo dietary lifestyles, and provides numerous recipes for delicious bread that fit into either or both of those lifestyles.

I am not even going to lie, I miss bread.  A lot.  I removed gluten from my diet in January, and have kept it out, due to Non Celiac Gluten Sensitivity.  In short, gluten makes me icky, but does not do permanent life threatening damage.  Gluten is a main component in bread.  I love bread.  I miss bread.  Sure, there are gluten free breads available at local stores, but they are just not the same.  Bread always struck me as tough to make at home, unless you have a bread maker.  So I was very happy that this book has a good deal of easy, straightforward recipes that have fairly standard ingredients.  As you get further in the book, the recipes do get more complicated, but the book will appeal to a range of skill levels because of this.

I also like that there is a very thorough introduction to the book, regarding gluten free and paleo dietary plans, and the reasoning behind them.  A lot of people think my choice to eat gluten free is a fad, so it helps when books like this recognize that there are people with gluten sensitivity that really do need to maintain a gluten free lifestyle.  All in all, I think the book presents very thorough information, and a wide variety of recipes; it is well worth the money.  

This book is from my own library and I wrote an honest review of my own volition.






Sunday, November 17, 2013

Crossing the Moon, by Paulette Alden

Paulette recounts her struggle to find herself, and her identity within a world full of mothers.  As a young woman, Paulette found herself rebelling against the stereotype that women go from being virgins, to wives, to mothers.  Instead, Paulette pursued her dreams and her education.  As she approaches middle age, however, she determines that she does indeed want to have a child, and spends months going to extreme lengths to conceive.

I really related to a large portion of this book, namely the messaging that women get regarding maternity.  When a woman is not actively pursuing maternity, or, heaven forbid, goes to great lengths to avoid it, people assume there must be something wrong with her.  Either she is physically "defective" and unable to conceive, or she is simply too selfish to desire motherhood.  I think this is really damaging messaging, and I think the book shows why.  For years, it seems as if Paulette was ambivalent about motherhood, but as soon as her own mother calls her selfish for choosing childlessness, she is filled with a burning desire to conceive.

She then spends endless money, time, and energy trying to follow the path laid out for her by society.  It is incredibly emotionally taxing, on her and her husband.  She details her medical procedures, and discusses how her fertility difficulties impact her overall identity.  It is honest, and raw, view of the unpleasant side of fertility treatments, a view of how failure feels.

I was deeply impacted by this book.  For so many women, maternity and identity are so intertwined, and no one talks about what happens to the female identity when maternity is not an option.  This book will really connect with readers who have suffered from fertility struggles, or even maternity ambivalence.

This book is from my personal library and I wrote an honest review of my own volition.


Saturday, November 16, 2013

The Paleo Aficionado Lunch Recipe Cookbook, by Amanda Matthews

Who says lunch has to be chemical laden fast food, or a measly salad?  There is so much more to lunch, without it necessarily being complicated.  Real food, with simple preparation, can be delicious and nourishing.  So, instead of getting a burger or pizza, try some of these recipes on for size.

I must admit, I do not know a lot about the paleo diet.  I know a lot of people swear by it, and I say, if it works for you, then go for it.  I am not at a place right now where I would be able, or willing, to abide by the guidelines of the paleo diet.  However, because I have been eating gluten free for a year now, I am always looking for new recipes that do not contain gluten, and this cookbook delivers in spades.

The thing I liked best about this cookbook is that it is simple simple simple.  Half of the recipes contain staples that I have on hand at all times.  Hardly any of them require any exotic, pricey spices, so that makes me happy.  I am pretty sure I could find every single ingredient in the book at our local grocer, something that is rare.  And the preparations are also simple.  Most recipes are no fuss, and very little mess.  Because they are intended as lunch, the portions are small or the recipes yield a small number of portions.  That could be easily adjusted to cook batches for dinner, or pair with other dishes to make a more rounded, filling dinner meal.  

I think this book is especially helpful for people just considering the paleo lifestyle, wanting to dabble, or are very new to eating paleo.  This book will give readers and cooks the confidence in their paleo cooking abilities to build simple, healthy meals.  I, for one, cannot wait to try several of these recipes.

This book is from my personal library, and I have created this honest review of my own volition.





Thursday, November 14, 2013

I Can Barely Take Care of Myself, by Jen Kirkman

When people find out Jen does not want kids, they insist that she will change her mind, or they try to change it for her.  Being childless by choice is baffling to some people, and greatly misunderstood.  Jen uses her humor to power through most situations, explaining that she has a hard enough time keeping herself on track without being responsible for another, smaller, human.

As a person who is also living a childless life, I cannot fully express the extent to which I identified with this book.  And there are parts that are really really fun.  But there are also parts that broke my heart, and made me mad, because they were situations I have also faced.  I am not sure at which point it became culturally acceptable to not only ask personal questions about one's reproductive plans, but also to pass judgement on someone because of their choice to not have children.  But apparently it now IS culturally acceptable, because it happens all the time.

I will admit, I did expect the book to be a little bit funnier.  And maybe if I were not dealing with the same situations myself, it would have translated into sidesplitting laughter to me.  But really, nothing is funny about being judged, belittled, or patronized over one's reproductive choices.  However, what the book lacked in hilarity it made up for in relatability.  So, I still think, overall, the book is great.

Those who are fans of humor memoirs, or those who are also childless by choice, will appreciate the book.

This book is from my personal library; I wrote an honest review by choice.




Sunday, November 10, 2013

Affiliate Marketing for Newbies, by Rebecca Thomson

Many people are interested in ways to use the internet to make money.  Some deals sound to good to be true (and probably are), but if you are willing to put in real effort, affiliate marketing can help you make extra money online.

When I first started blogging, everyone was talking about using ads to make money.  In the years since then, monetizing your blog has become big business, usually through various types of affiliate marketing.  I never really cared all that much about using my blog to make money, but if I had, I would not have known where to start.  That is where this book steps in.

This book is a basic introduction to what affiliate marketing is, how it can be profitable, and a realistic view of the amount of work necessary to be successful at it.  Keep in mind, this is only an introduction.  It starts from having no knowledge base.  So, do not expect in depth marketing plans, or detailed blueprints for success as a marketer.  I think it would be advisable for the author to write a follow up book for people ready to take the next step.  

All in all, I think, for the price, this is a good, informative introductory booklet that compiles a lot of the basics in one place for people who are considering this type of marketing.

I received a review copy courtesy of the author in exchange for my honest review.

 


Wednesday, November 6, 2013

How Not to Be a Dick, by Meghan Doherty

There are a lot of dicks in the world; sometimes they are dicks on purpose, and sometimes they simply do not know any better.  Everyone could benefit from this simple, straightforward guide on how to avoid acts of dickery. Sound, solid advice, delivered in a playful, light hearted manner.

I love books that does not take life too seriously, so this book was right up my alley.  Somewhat modeled after the straight-laced etiquette and advice books from the 50s, this book is fun and sassy.  Yet at its very heart, this is a great book with advice that every human should follow.  Imagine how much better our world would be if everyone reduced their dickish behavior by even 15%.

This book caused me to laugh out loud numerous times, not only because the writing is so witty and clever, but also because the commentary on human behavior is so spot on accurate.  The book is perfect for older teens and young adults, because it addresses some situations that may be new to them, such as dickery in the workplace.  

All in all, I thought this was a fun little read, and I would recommend it to anyone who has a sense of humor.

I received a review copy courtesy of the Amazon Vine program, in exchange for my honest review.


Sunday, November 3, 2013

Stolen Innocence, by Elissa Wall

Elissa Wall was raised in the Fundamentalist Church of Latter Day Saints, an ultra-conservative offshoot from the Mormon Church.  In this sect, polygamy is still alive and well, and is considered the only way to get to heaven.  Children were raised in large families with multiple mothers, girls in their teens were married off to old men, and the bulk of the followers lived together on one of several compounds.  As a child bride, Elissa was routinely raped by her husband, under the command of The Prophet, Warren Jeffs.  Eventually, Elissa escapes, and begins to seek justice for the crimes perpetrated against her and so many others.

Oh my goodness, did this book make my heart hurt for the author, and for so many others who have suffered at the hands of the FLDS.  I am positively fascinated by this particular religious sect, and the lifestyle they live.  I think when any group shuns the modern, widely approved ways of life, it draws attention and curiosity.  With their huge poofy hairdos, long dresses, and sisterwives, the FLDS is their own form of counter-culture, and can be somewhat of a spectacle.  So I guess it makes sense that we are curious and fascinated.

I cannot imagine the hell that the young girls go through when living in these communities.  I remember when the Warren Jeffs case broke, but I knew very little about it.  This book chronicles the very instances that broke the case.  I was sickened to read much of this book, but I do believe that stories like this are so important.  Stories like this give voice to other survivors.  While the writing may not be overly polished or grammatically perfect, the courage and strength of Elissa Wall and her story more than make up for those small matters.  

God Bless Elissa Wall for telling the truth of the crimes perpetrated by Warren Jeffs.

This book is from my personal library, and I reviewed it of my own volition.

 

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Papal Bull, by Joe Wenke

In this book, the author makes clear his opinions on particular aspects of Catholic doctrine.  A cutting, satirical look at Catholic beliefs regarding saints, Mary, birth control, the treatment of women, and of course the huge scandalous cover-up of molestation.

This is a book with little gray area.  Currently practicing Catholics are going to hate it.  Former Catholics and those who morally oppose everything about the Catholic Church will love it.  I am attempting to review it from an objective perspective, favoring neither of those two extremes.

On the one hand, I think the author raises a lot of valid points regarding doctrinal contradiction and hypocrisy.  He clearly is well educated in catechetical topics.  However, I do get the impression that some of the statements and language used in the book are for shock value.  And, I suppose that is ok; if the author feels the need to shock us, that purpose is clearly served in the book.  However, I think that a book would be more likely to convince someone were it based more of fact and research, instead of using shock tactics and some of the same old anti-Catholic sentiments that have been around for years.

I suppose, though, that the book's main purpose is not to convince anyone, but instead to amuse people who already share these same beliefs.  That is ok by we, know your target audience and give them what you want I guess.  Regardless of whether or not I agree with any portion of the message of this book, I think it does what it sets out to do, and it does it pretty well.  

Again, this book is probably most appropriate for those who are at odds with the Catholic church in some way, or those Catholics who are not easily offended.

I received a review copy courtesy of NetGalley in exchange for my honest review.

 

Friday, November 1, 2013

The Complete Fibromyalgia Health, Diet Guide, and Cookbook, by Dr. Loise McCrindle and Alison Bested

For many years fibromyalgia was treated as a psycho-somatic disorder; in other words, patients were told it was all in their heads.  Continued research has helped us learn that this is a very real health issue, affected my many different factors.  In the same vein, successful treatment of this syndrome involves many different strategies.

This book is so incredible and thorough; I wish I had read it months ago.  This book validates nearly every concern and complaint that a person with fibromyalgia manifests.  Written in a way that is easy for a layman to understand, this book provides incredible information about what fibro is, how to manage the symptoms, different treatment interventions, possible causes or explanations, and a suggested dietary plan that will help fibro patients.

As with any health or self help book, the book can be a little overwhelming, especially the dietary part.  But the key is for users to parse out the information that is most relevent to them, to take small steps towards change/health, and to pay attention to how their bodies react to different interventions.

All in all, I think this is a tremendous resource for anyone dealing with fibromyalgia, or who has a loved one dealing with this syndrome.

I received a review copy courtesy of the Amazon Vine program in exchange for my honest review.



Thursday, October 17, 2013

Mind Without a Home, by Kristina Morgan

Mental illness, despite all the advancements in modern care, is still a mystery, particularly to those who are not afflicted, or do not know anyone else who is.  Kristina paints an honest, raw portrait of life as a schizophrenic.  Kristina suffers the additional issue of substance addiction, and details her struggle to overcome her issues.

Be forewarned, this book is disjointed.  This is, in no way, a flaw as far as I am concerned.  Life with schizophrenia and addiction is, itself, disjointed.  Timelines blur in the mind, details get confused, things that should have great impact seem dulled, while minor things become major things.  So, for a memoir to be written in a way that paints an honest picture of the disease so appear disjointed actually makes a lot of sense.  It can make for tricky reading, sure, but as I read it, all I could think was 'imagine the struggle of living this, as opposed to just reading it'.  

I think Kristina has a beautiful writing style that makes the memoir flow nicely.  She has the heart of a poet, and at times the book moves from disordered chaos to beautiful poetry.  I personally liked that, again, I think it made the book feel genuine.  I think anyone who works in the mental health field, or knows someone dealing with these types of issues, would not only benefit from the book, they would enjoy it.  Books of this nature are never easy to read, but the impact far outweighs the discomfort.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

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Monday, October 14, 2013

Anelisse, by Adriana Bellini

As a young girl, Anelisse and her twin sister Maddie were ecstatic that their mother has found a new husband.  The girls are excited to have a father, who appears loving and attentive.  As time goes by, they see a new, ugly side of their stepfather.  He begins to inflict terrible abuse on their mother, and eventually on the children themselves.  A younger brother is born, but the situation gets worse and worse, until finally Anelisse must do what she can to make sure she survives.

It is always difficult to say you like or enjoy a book that details severe child abuse.  How can someone like that?  The subject matter is so heart breaking and sad.  Yet I am so glad that these types of books continue to be written, and I have great respect for the authors to are so adept at sharing these stories.  This book is stark, and raw.  The story is, at times, quite difficult to read, but the writing is beautifully executed.

The book is based on the real experiences of the author, so it is a delicate blend of nonfiction and fiction.  The reality truly comes through in the writing; it is clear that people really do suffer through these terrible situations.  But the focus here is on survival, and that gives the readers and other survivors hope.  I think it is so important that these stories continue to be told, so that other victims know they are not alone, and that they too can have a good life.  

It is never fun to read about the pain of others.  But I am better for having read this well written book.

I received a review copy courtesy of the author in exchange for my honest review.



Friday, September 27, 2013

Hitler's Furies: German Women in the Nazi Killing Fields, by Wendy Lower

Over the years, countless books have discussed various aspects of the Holocaust and World War II.  Yet a large portion of the story is continuously overlooked: the women involved.  Some women were involved at a low level, such as teachers and secretaries.  Others were more complicit, such as the nurses ordered to kill patients, or the wives of high ranking Nazi officers.  This book dissects the various ways women were involved with the Nazi killing machine, and why it was so rare that female transgressors were brought to justice.

This book was everything I hoped it would be.  It thoroughly covered an area of World War II history that has, for years, been ignored.  The glaring deficiency of historical analysis regarding the role of women in the Holocaust is, in my opinion, deliberate.  Seen as maternal figures, humanity does not want to explore the darker, baser motivations of women.  If we focus on men as criminal perpetrators of war crimes, we can dismiss them as brutish animals.  With women, however, we are forced to focus on the humanity of these criminals, and realize how close any of us can be to becoming perpetrators.

I found the book to be incredibly insightful.  It is clear that this book was well researched, a feat that must have been difficult when covering such a groundbreaking angle.  But the book is also written in a way that is engaging, providing real, personal stories as opposed to just dry historical fact.  I was fascinated by the book, and learned a great deal.  The book will appeal to fans of historical non-fiction, particularly those with an interest in the Holocaust.

I received  review copy courtesy of the Amazon Vine program in exchange for my honest review.



Thursday, August 22, 2013

Son of a Gun, by Justin St. Germaine

When Justin's mother, Debbie, is murdered, apparently by her 5th husband, Justin finds himself reflecting on her life.  Having spend a large portion of his childhood in Tombstone, Arizona, Justin talks about his mother's murder against the backdrop of the old west town and all of its bloody history.  Even when he moves away and starts a new life in California, Justin finds himself revisiting Tombstone, looking for answers about his mother, her death, and what led them all to that tragic place.

Whew this book packs some serious punch.  It was a difficult read for me, not because it was bad, but because it was so deep.  It is the kind of book that you are happy it is so difficult.  Knowing right away that you are dealing with a memoir revolving around a murder helps, but it does not fully prepare you for what is to come.  Justine paints a painfully honest, and at times stark, portrait of his mother, and the childhood he had, rather than using her death to make her a martyr.  Not once does he disparage his mother, nor does he put her on a pedestal.  He is honest about Debbie's history with men, the fact that she made business enemies in Tombstone, and his own troubled adolescence.

I truly hope that writing this book helped the author heal a little; I think that children who have had a parent murdered will be able to relate to this book on an intense, deep level.  However, even people who have not suffered such intense tragedy will find it compelling, simply because it was beautifully written.  It is probably the most honest memoir I have ever read.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

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Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Etched in Sand, by Regina Calcaterra

For a large part of their childhood, Regina and her siblings lived a very tremulous life.  The were often homeless, and when they did have a home, no matter how temporary, the children were left to fend for themselves while their mother was off drinking.  When life would get a little too out of control, the children would get placed in foster care.  For years, the children had to fight to just survive, yet somehow, they made it out.

Within moments of finishing this book, I found myself recommending it to several specific people, people who have been serving as foster parents.  I feel like this is such an important story, one that people really need to read.  I had a very strong emotional reaction to this memoir.  While several emotions came up while reading, but the main emotion was anger.  I am so angry that the system failed these children so miserably.  I feel like Regina never should have been in the care of her biological mother, nor should her younger siblings.  The mother's lack of parental skills (and desire to be a parent) was apparent from the beginning, yet the system continued to put these children in danger by returning them to her care.

I know that there is a chance that child protective services have improved in the years since these events, and I also know that there is a lack of good foster parents, particularly for older children.  I am not suggesting that there is an easy answer to situations like these.  But I cannot help but feel something should be, and can be, done.  The writing in the book is honest, and stark, but without assuming the voice of a victim.  Regina is not a victim; she is a survivor.  And thanks to this survivor telling her story, perhaps the system can be improved, and allow for more survivors.

I received a review copy courtesy of TLC Book Tours in exchange for my honest review.  See the rest of the tour here.

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